My husband and I lead a small group for couples and we just started reading the book “One Month to Live” by Pastor Kerry Shook and his wife Chris. We are only on the first week so I’m not sure what I think of this book yet but ask me in 30 days and I’ll let you know!
Day one asks you to think about 5 things you would change about your life if you knew you only had one month to live. This was really a hard question for me to answer. While hubby and I were laying in bed talking about our five things we started talking about dreams and goals for our life, what we would change, etc. This is something we don’t do enough of together, dream! I felt so energized after we talked about where we were in our life 10 years ago, where our life is now and where we want to be 10 years from now.
When was the last time you talked, dreamed, shared goals and aspirations for your life, your family, your character? If you haven’t done it or it’s been a while, do it, soon! I know that for women, we have a hard time dreaming sometimes, too many other things occupy our minds and we find it hard to dream when there is laundry and dishes piled all around us and kids fighting for our attention. Men on the other hand, they love to dream! They also love to share their dreams with us and too often we shoot down their dreams. We tell them what they are dreaming isn’t going to happen so why bother. We think they should live in the real world and not in la-la land. It’s time get your head out of the clouds, can’t you see all the dishes and laundry that we need help with. More often than not, your man is not really going to quit his job and move the family to Alaska so he can be on Deadliest Catch. In the way we women like to share our burdens and just want our husband’s to listen and not solve them, he wants us to listen to his dreams and not respond negatively. If your husband shares his dreams with you, please don’t squash them like a bug. Take the time to listen, hear his heart, he’s letting you in his world, enjoy it, encourage it and dream with him!
I can’t wait to do this with my children as well, listening to their hearts, sharing in their dreams and aspirations, seeing where they want to go in life, what they want to do, who they want to be! I don’t want to squash their hearts, to tell them that their dreams are impossible or foolish. Because what I’m really telling them is that they are foolish in their thinking and I would crush their spirit. So when my children share their dreams with me, I pray that I respond in such a way that encourages them and lets them know that I am always waiting to listen to whatever they want to dream about and I hope I can dream along with them!
So what are you waiting for, start sharing your dreams, you never know where they might take you, maybe even right into the heart of your husband or children!
I want to live near you someday! 🙂 That's my dream.
My hubby has been talking lately of wanting to do more DJ gigs around town. As much as I know where this could take him (less time with the family) I know this is a dream of his and something he loves to do. So I encourage him when he talks and freely allow him to say everything on his heart, and I think about all that he has heard me talk about with my endeavor with nursing school. It's a wonderful feeling to dream.
Thank you for sharing.
My husband talks about moving to Alaska too!
Wonderful words as always Ange. This is a lesson I learned latter in my marriage…which is sad because I fear I was often a dream crusher with my young husband. I work hard to not be that person anymore. Thank you for sharing your heart!
Heather