We’ve only been in our new to us home for almost two weeks. This house doesn’t need anything done to it really except maybe a new roof in a year or two and the deck could use a new coat of stain. Compared to the last house, it feels wonderful, freeing and strange. I don’t know what to do with myself. Obviously there are 1001 things I could do to this house but do we need it?
I had a conversation with a good friend the other day about projects, home improvement/decor, blogging, pinning and children. Do we need to do all these projects, decorating things to our houses when really we’re just going to change it up again in a few
months years anyways? What is the real cost of all this? Why do we do it?
My friend and I both decided that it’s not the approval, opinion and compliments from our husbands that we like. No, it’s the comments and compliments from friends, family and strangers on blogs that we like. It’s getting feedback and acknowledgment for our work, something we don’t get with raising children or doing laundry. No one says, wow, you did an amazing job on that load of laundry! Way to go mom! And we all know that raising children is hard work with little sense of accomplishment for many, many years. So is it wrong to make our homes look nice, to better them even? No. But do I often browse pinterest or blogs and see something that has been done to a room and then decide that maybe I don’t like my just fine a few minutes ago dining room anymore? I need to do this cool thing and maybe it will make our dinner times happier and won’t we be cool. But then, if I do the dining room it won’t flow with the kitchen and I will need to repaint the cabinets and the walls, tile the backsplash, buy some new hand towels, window treatments and perhaps some new dishes as well. Which then the kitchen leads into the family room and on and on it goes. Then I will eventually end back up in the dining room and start the madness all over again!
Not that we don’t love the way changing up things makes us feel when we walk into a room. Or as her husband even pointed out, the way their home makes people feel when they walk into their home relaxed, welcoming and comfortable. We obviously want our homes to be welcoming and we like to live in a house that looks great. But where is the stopping point?
Here is my analysis of a home improvement project. First I have to decide what I want to do with the space which involves reading blogs, googling things, spending time on pinterest, going to the various stores 573 times deciding on tile, paint, cabinets or whatever else we need for a project. Then, while actually doing the projects the house turns into a disaster zone, mom and dad can get kind of cranky not only with each other but also with the children, kids are left to their own devices and told they have to wait until the project is done for food, attention and love, and the pocketbook takes a hit.
AUGH! How much money and more importantly, time am I wasting? My children are only going to be living in this house for at best 15 more years. That will be gone in a flash. Do I want my kids to remember living in a home that was always under construction because mom and dad are at Home Depot, Lowes, Menards again. Mom is on the computer, again.
Where is the balance? Can I have a nice home and improve the looks of it without spending a lot of time or money? Should we just not even care? Does it really matter? If I knew I only had 2 weeks to live, would I spend it on blogger, pinterest, fb or google? No, I would be trying to fill every moment spending time with those I love, soaking in my children and what they have to say, making sure they know how much I love them, making sure my husband knows he is respected and loved, that I couldn’t have asked for a better man to marry. Because the truth is, we really don’t know how much time we have on Earth, we like to think we’ll live to be 85 but we don’t really know what our future holds.
So my question is, is this worth it? Can there be balance? Do you struggle with these same issues? I would LOVE LOVE LOVE some feedback on this post. You can comment below, comment on the Blooming Hydrangea fb page or even send me an email. Am I just having a PMS day, too much time in the sun this weekend or maybe moving drove me over the edge? Talk to me!